well, many of you know i work in the wee hours of the morning... cutting paper away to the voices of scully and mulder arguing over faith and science... or gluing to the voices of lucy and ethel getting into another crazy mess... sometimes, i type away to the sounds of batman or superman (the cartoon) beating up another wild villain... nonetheless, i have my weeks where i can create while the world sleeps... and then i sleep short hours and during diego's nap times... after all, my kind of art does not allow me to really work on it with a loose toddler around... with x-acto blades, hot glue guns, and a curious kid, what mother would feel comfortable and creative?
but some nights, i lose energy... it catches up with me... regardless of the cups of coffee in my system, the fatigue sets in... although i have a set list of things to do, there isn't enough "umph" to complete the tasks at hand... i am too tired to play video games with my husband or to even email people.... it's a lot of work to bathe diego or to cook a june cleaver style meal... on top of that, seasonal allergies kick in and some medicines cause unwanted drowsiness... plus, i take many walks with my child, which aren't of short distance either! i love our outings to the parks and the zoo, but just like diego, i end up taking a long nap after such a day... but can i complain?! who would say no to taking a snooze in the middle of the day in such a clean and peaceful home?!
it's true, i have such days... sometimes, being a stay-at-home mom can seem lazy... all we do is cook, clean, and watch after a kid, right?????!!!! i mean, is it really that hard to vacuum a house? or to rearrange the living room? or to change a few diapers and keep an active kid entertained? is it really that hard to teach a child all that they should know at this age? and feed them the appropriate foods and be 100% responsible for their health and nutrition? can it be so difficult to raise a kid the best possible way, even when you wonder if all that you are doing is right in the first place?! how many times do we have to explain ourselves to our husbands or others that what we do is really a lot of work... that most days aren't filled with naps and watching tv... but in honesty, we have such days to preserve our sanity and regain our strength...
i've debated on returning to work outside of the home... the offers come and i have the credentials and the experience to do so... i mean, i could work at a coffee shop or retail... maybe design or coordinate... and diego is old enough to handle a daycare... with bills around, another check couldn't hurt... my hopes to make a career out of this creativity and still maintain my normal duties of being a mother, wife, and homeowner can seem distant... it's possible but of course, takes time... in all honesty, i don't think i could work part-time, do my normal duties, and create at night... i almost feel guilty that i cannot do all this... (as if i don't do enough, eh?!)... after all, it's been 2.5 years of not working outside the home... i am an artist who's finally got her groove back... i am determined to make freelance work a bigger part of our income... with the etsy shop still in progress and investments being made, it's not impossible... ramel fully supports me and understands my plate is full... and that my goal is not selfish; my family is forever on my mind... diego won't be a toddler forever... and our bills aren't out of control... so whatever doubts, frustrations, and fatigue felt now, are only temporary...
i can't say this post ends with a purpose... it's moreso just a ramble of thoughts and ideas... it raises a question of how many other creative moms go through this... who are working hard to raise a happy, healthy child... how many moms are willing to stay up late at night utilizing their creativity for both a stress reliever and a money-maker?! no doubt, the latter is not the most important, and that shouldn't be what ultimately drives us to create... but how many of us create with a purpose beyond just "for the sake of creating"? how many of us have a vision that goes beyond dusting the furniture and making a meal that isn't from a box?! how many of us relish the days we have with our kid, but yet question if we are doing enough?
regardless of such thoughts, i try very hard... in all that i do, i try hard... and no doubt, you do too...